Friday, June 16, 2017

Real Talk, Real Moms: Finding Your Confidence as a Mom

Real Talk, Real Moms: Finding Your Confidence as a Mom

        I was a teacher who had been teaching for over 10 years when I became pregnant with Zion, my first child. I never lacked confidence in dealing with the many students I've taught over the years. I was very good at my job too. But,  I remember clearly the day I found out that I had to go to the hospital right away when a routine OB visit after work took a turn I wasn't expecting.  I was 36 weeks and apparently my amniotic fluid was very low. I was "leaking fluid" and didn't even know! A wave of doubt fell over me then- all the confidence I exuded in my job fell to the wayside. I burst into tears at the clinic and remember thinking, "... no, I'm not ready yet!" I felt so unprepared.

Real Talk, Real Moms: Finding Your Confidence as a Mom

       After his birth,  Zion wouldn't latch on to my breasts and I wasn't prepared for that. I felt so overwhelmed but thank goodness for the lactation consultant at the hospital who worked one and one with me and after a few nights he was breastfeeding like a champ. One of the things I learned about myself during this time was I needed to let go of the "being a perfect mom" goal. I always strived for perfection in other areas of my life and I entered motherhood with that same attitude which definitely added to my stress level when things went array. Like so many new Moms,  I read parenting guides voraciously and tried to devour all the "enlightening information" on how to be the best mom.

     However, those parenting advice manuals  and "enlightening sources" tend to inspire expectations that new already struggling Mom may find difficult to live up to.

Real Talk, Real Moms: Finding Your Confidence as a Mom

Real Talk, Real Moms: Finding Your Confidence as a Mom

     I had to turn off the outside noise and learn about MY baby. He was not a great sleeper and I went against everything I read and we did the cosleep thing. In fact, I would often have to place him on my chest so that he would sleep AND so that I could also get some rest.

     I also learned to not compare myself to other Moms. Though so many portray an "I have it together," image, they actually have struggles just like I do.

    Sometimes, you have to relinquish control to get some alone time and recoup. I have to admit this was an area, I really struggled in. Even when family members offered to take care of Baby Zion so I could rest, I hesitated or said all was fine because I just didn't want to relinquish control of being his care taker.

   I am much more confident today being a Mom and I've found being happy and healthy is much better for my children than  attempting to prove I can do everything perfectly.

Be sure to check out the other lovely Mamas' thoughts on this topic:

The Effortless Chic/ Design for Mankind/A Daily Something/The Fresh Exchange/ Oh Lovely Day/ Aves Styles/ The Sweetest Occasion/Apartment 34

Thursday, June 1, 2017

Hey June!

The most beautiful fiddle leaf fig in all the land- design addict mom
We've been having a lot of rain so everything is looking as nice and green as my lovely fiddle leaf fig, Glory. Summer is in the air! xx

Thursday, May 25, 2017

Man Cave Gets a Facelift with Pixerstick Wallpaper

Pixerstick abstract leaves pattern

Hello, hello! I know a number of you saw a glimpse of this wallpaper on my Instagram account the other day when it was being installed and have been waiting with bated breath to see the reveal! Well, the day is here! O.K., so this amazing pattern comes from Pixers. It is self adhesive so you simply peel and stick it to your walls. I had the pleasure of collaborating with them recently and was able to choose the design I wanted to use in my space. The choice was a tough one as there are a myriad of patterns and styles to choose from but ultimately I settled on the Leaves Abstract Pattern Background shown above. This is from their Pixerstick Wallpaper line. It looks even more amazing in person.

Before pic - design addict mom

Now, let’s talk about where this amazing wallpaper was going to be installed. The above pic shows a glimpse into a room that never gets seen here or on instagram- the man cave or my more modern coined version- the gentleman’s space. This is the room above the garage so the angles are not that of a standard room but it’s still a great space plus it has a dormer which lets in great light. My husband wanted to decorate this space the way he wanted without my input and although I’ve respected his wishes, somehow, I managed to paint the space and now giving it a mini makeover, not the full Design Addict Mom treatment, just a little touch. It’s still his space and his style. Plus, he was the one who chose the pattern above (with a little subliminal coaxing from me in the right direction).

Pixerstick wallpaper being installed- design addict mom
My always reliable wall paper installer, Don. You could also install this yourself with the help of another person since it’s self adhesive.

Space after Pixerstick wallpaper is installed- design addict mom
 And there is the after! Because of the angle and slope of the walls, it’s a tricky space to photograph but what a difference that Pixerstick makes! 

Space after Pixerstick wallpaper is installed- design addict mom
This is also the space where we watch movies. 

Man Cave Gets a Facelift with Pixerstick Wallpaper- design addict mom
Part of the wall across from the couch which is the movie wall

 The hubby uses a projector that projects on this wall for movies and although i would rather a projector screen hanging here, he insisted on just leaving the wall white. So, I did but when I first painted the room that Benjamin Moore Wedge-wood Grey color, I didn’t want to paint the entire wall white at the time or paint more blue over this side as I felt there was more than enough blue in the space. Instead, I did a bit of color blocking using some leftover orange paint I had. 

Color Blocking with Paint- design addict mom
Well, after installing this beautiful paper, the orange didn’t seem cohesive so I picked up on the mustardy yellow that’s in the wallpaper pattern and repainted the bottom area. And guess what, it was with leftover paint! (Sherwin Williams June Day). I have that same color in my staircase area that leads up the stairs to this room. 

Color Blocking with paint- design addict mom
movie time!

 View looking into the the room from the top of the stairs- design addict mom

 View looking into the the room from the top of the stairs. 

Man Cave Gets a Facelift with Pixerstick Wallpaper- design addict mom

Color Blocking -design addict mom

Man Cave Gets a Facelift with Pixerstick Wallpaper- design addict mom

The hubby loves the results and so do I. Thank you Pixerstick for sponsoring this post!

Before images and last pic by Me, others by photographer,  Lea Hartman